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Tips on how to easily protect your mental health and avoid emotional collapse.

If you physically over-stretch yourself, say, work too hard or party non-stop you should not be surprised if your body suddenly goes into a melt-down and ‘breaks’. Being aware of the risks to our body and not being able to ‘afford’ a systems’ failure we normally take care of ourselves by ensuring that we are drinking enough, resting and sleeping to recharge and eating healthy (at least some of the time).

Our mind operates by similar rules, which means that it can only take so much stress before going into a total melt-down. Still the majority of us neglect to do an occasional little ‘check-up from the neck up’, in the same manner we look after our physical well-being. This is a huge mistake, which I’m sure you’re at least intuitively aware of, but still a mistake that can be easily remedied if you follow the following suggestions to achieve emotional resilience:

Be Hopeful

We’re talking here about seeing the light at the end of the proverbial tunnel. Noticing little milestones which come about by achieving small accomplishments. These little ‘wins’ help increase our levels of hope because when we’re able to reach some of our goals it gives us a sense of support and validation which makes the future seem more hopeful.

Come to terms with who you are

Self-acceptance or the attitude we hold about ourselves is a major source of well-being and happy

life. This boils down to being content with who you are now, avoiding measuring your own worth by comparison to others and coming to terms with what you can’t change or control and making peace with your past. It’s about living in the ‘now’ and about recognising the futility in holding onto negativity regarding people, places and situations we have no control over and are major contributors to our stress.

Develop a mastery mind-set

You should have mastery over your environment and learn how to adapt and modify your own circumstances to have emotional resilience. Mastery comes from having the skills and competence required to progress and achieve what we need, as well as having the confidence and belief in our personal abilities. It can entail using skills such as prioritising and time management which when accomplished can provide a sense of pride and success, and is a catalyst for additional motivation to handle life’s challenges.

Be Optimistic

Being optimistic means having a positive attitude about the future and believing that things will turn out well and that any difficulty is merely transitory and shouldn’t be allowed to affect other areas of your life. Seeing the “full half of the glass” increases your ability to experience happiness regularly and at the same time help you cope with stress more effectively. So next time you encounter a stressful challenge, take care not to blow things out of proportion.

Be grateful

People who regularly feel gratitude for what they have are better able to cope with stress, have

more positive emotions and are better equipped to reach the objectives they set up for themselves. Gratitude also fills us up with greater compassion which has been linked to reduced stress, happier moods, increased optimism and enhanced physical wellbeing. To feel gratitude you need to focus on the areas of your life that you regard as positive. It’s ok to make an effort to have more, but be aware that it might decrease your satisfaction with life.

Discover a purpose and meaning for your life

Once you find it, your life will take on a new meaning that supports your mental well-being. Having a direction wills us up with a sense of purpose and ‘aliveness’. You can find your true direction in your natural strengths and talents, from developing personal relationships or increasing spiritual growth. It is most satisfactory if your objectives and intentions offer a sense of something that is greater than yourself. It is very reassuring and offers greater meaning and purpose.

Embrace being connected

Having intimate relationships feeds our emotional needs and has been shown to relate to a more